Sad News on the Personal Front

As you may be aware, I rarely mention work here, for a variety of reasons. Anyway, by way of set up, for those who don’t know, I work in a group home with four adults who have mental retardation/developmental disabilities. I’ve been there for (exactly!) seven years, during which time the folks I work with have become, quite literally, like family to me.

Yesterday, after spending an hour and a half shoveling ice and snow just to get my car dug out, I had pretty much decided that I was going to have to call and excuse myself from Thursday’s staff meeting. Later, after another 2 or 3 hours with the shovel, getting the sidewalk cleared and getting my neighbor’s car dug out, I was greeted when I came in by my answering machine flashing that I had a message. Hopeful, I played the message; sure enough, it was my boss; due to the weather, Thursday’s meeting was canceled. Hooray!

Then, a few hours later I get a call from my boss’s boss. Instinctively, I know this can’t be good. Her voice choked with emotion, she tells me that one of my people from work passed away at home tonight.

Like anyone in healthcare or social work, I was aware of the inevitability of this day, but I don’t think you can ever truly be prepared, especially when it’s totally unexpected like this.

Right now I feel like I’m still in shock, one thing’s for sure, it’s going to be a long and sad weekend at work this week.

7 thoughts on “Sad News on the Personal Front

  1. I’m sorry for your loss. I don’t know if it will help, but I’ll send some positive energy via bike porn you asked for a while back.

    Keep your spirits up.


  2. Thanks Jon, bike pr0n is always welcome. Are we speaking of the new fixie?

    Anyway… I’m trying really hard to keep my spirits up. There’s three other people at the home who’ll be counting on me, so I’ll do my best to put on a brave face for them.

  3. Darling:
    My sympathies for your loss, and my heart goes out to the other members of the group home, who will find it hard to cope. I am sure you will do your best to help them through this troubled time. My mom was a pioneer in Canada in work orientated rehabilitation for people with mental disabilities, and was a Group Home Supervisor in her later years. I am amazed by the capacity of people to give, and I’m proud to know you.

  4. I read your blog after your email. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I just learned of this today. I know Friday and Saturday had to be hard. I hope tonight goes better. Please take care and God Bless you. You are a wonderful, loving and caring person.

  5. sorry to hear about nancy. i definetly know how hard things like this are. Grandma westfall just passed away 2 weeks ago. people say that when you know its comming its easier but knowing from experience it doesnt help.

  6. Thanks everyone for your kind words, thoughts, and prayers. Tuesday was the funeral and we all made it through that more or less intact, so that’s another step along the long road.

    One of the hardest parts has been (and will continue to be) helping the 3 surviving housemates to cope with their grief. We’ll manage, bit by bit, day by day.

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